The Mystery Method for Introverts: Part II
Peacocking for the Common Man
In The Mystery Method for Introverts: Part I, we provided a brief overview of the “art of seduction,” and added a few baby steps for those who might have cold feet. For a refresher, click here. Much of the Mystery Method is self explanatory, but there are a few topics that we feel we can add a little insight into. Today’s topic: Peacocking.
To paraphrase Mystery, peacocking is the art of using attention-getting accessories to increase your responses from women in the field (hats, jewelry, etc.) The best peacocking accessories are ones that can also be used as “lock-in” props, items that you can temporarily leave with women to keep them subconsciously connected to you.
The Mystery Method poses the following question: “Is your image congruent to your identity?”
“There is a big difference between dressing well and dressing in a way that is congruent to your identity. How does a rock star dress? How does a basketball player dress? Does it convey a distinct identity? What is the impression that people will have when they see you?”
The challenge with peacocking and lock-in props is that most men cannot get away with wearing flashy, attention-getting items without being incongruent with their identity. Most of us aren’t rock stars, basketball players, Hip Hop artists, nor do we resemble Mystery, who likes to peacock with a fuzzy hat and goggles.
Here are some ideas for men who would like to add a little flair to their appearance without going over the top and looking like a try-hard.
1. Dress Hats
When I’m out on the town, I’m almost always in a button-up shirt with a nice coat, pants, and shoes. I can’t really get away with wearing things like goggles or even a regular baseball cap. These “dress hats,” as I call them (hey, I’m no fashion expert) can fit my look while offering a chance to stand out from the crowd.
2. Scarfs
This recommendation comes straight from another Tenderized Meat staffer. This seems like a no-brainer for those who live in cold climates, but the problem is that a scarf won’t stand out in a Chicago nightclub. Try pulling this of in Southern California. Be careful though, this won’t work for everyone. Make sure that your overall look is congruent to the artsy type, or the ladies may think that you’re playing for the other team!
3. Ties
This isn’t my personal favorite, but it can work in a pinch. First, make sure that your tie looks extraordinary, preferably colorful and made of silk, and worthy of attracting attention. A flat black tie just won’t do. Additionally, a tie will only catch attention in the right environment. Wearing a tie to a “black tie” affair certainly won’t make you look special.
4. Necklaces
Call me old fashion, but this word still seems to have a feminine connotation. Let’s call our version “man-necklaces.” Again, your man-necklace of choice must be congruent with your image. If you are wearing slacks and a blazer, don’t go busting into a club with some Flavor Flav-style bling hanging off of your neck. A good place to start is the basic male accessory from Anchor Blue (pictured above).
This list is just the beginning. There are plenty of unique ways to add interesting elements to your appearance. If you have some other ideas to contribute, post a comment below! These items may seem inconsequential at first, but a well-worn accessory may be just what you need to buy some time to keep a promising conversation going.
Tags: lock-in, Mystery, Mystery Method, Peacocking