Talking to Women on Defense
This is a follow up to my post on hitting on girls at the gym. While I was at the gym today, waiting for my new band t-shirts to arrive in the mail, I had a great conversation with a rather beautiful young woman. This got me thinking about some ways to ensure success in the gym.
The gym can be one of the most difficult places to talk to women. And the hardest part is breaking through their defense. Women at the gym look good, and they know it. This is mainly because every single guy in the whole place is checking them out. Add into that the fact that when women work out they are in there “burning steam” mode.
Here are some tricks to help you approach girls at the gym and in other defensive situations with ease.
Not every girl will want to talk.
I address this in my last post, but its so true. Women at the gym either want to be talked to or left alone. This is not the time to “play your A Game and win over that ice queen” Look for girls that are looking around the room, making eye contact with people, or watching the TV. Generally speaking if she is just staring at herself in the mirror listening to her iPod its a no go.
Look for something different about her, use it as a prop.
Today my conversation opener was a knee brace that this beautiful girl had. A simple “why the knee brace” shows two things. A) I noticed something about you that sets you apart. B) I am interested in what you have to say, tell me more.
Prop openers where you ask a question are great.
Keep the conversation going.
This is a tough one. You are both there to work out. If you stop what your doing to stand around and chat, you risk dropping your value. Saying “Your totally more important than working out” Also although some strategists would recommend a walk away (mystery method) as a way to show your value, I would not be so quick to cut it off. Openings like this are so hard to get, try and stay on the fringe.
In todays case, I kept on my machine working my cardio. Dropped the pace a bit, but kept it up. By keeping the conversation going this way she was quickly standing in front of me talking, ignore her work out. This is a display of direct interest. SCORE!
To bounce or not to bounce?
A bounce (when you take a ‘pick up’ on an instance date, change location) is always preferred, however at the gym, it is not as important. Plus the different schedules (she may be done with her work out, you just started, etc.) poses an issue. Also do you really want to go grab coffee smelling like a locker room?
Once the conversation has a good pausing point, cut it off. “Hey, i better get back to my work out” or “my friend just got here” is a good way to cut the convo on a good note.
This is a great seed planting. Now next time you see her at the gym, you can walk right up to her and pick up were you left off, putting you in prime position to build extra momentum into a date.
When during your/her work out should you approach?
Don’t approach a girl when you first get to the gym OR when she first gets there. If you walk in and walk to her directly (as far as first time pickups are concerned) you look like that is your whole goal… picking up chicks.
Equally when a girl first walks into a gym she has a lot on her mind… including checking out all the guys. Not just you. Let her settle in and hopefully break a sweat on a machine. If a girl has already produced a good amount of endorphins, you have an increased chance of success. She will be on a simulated high point.
Get out there
As I’ve always known, just never been good at following, just go for it. Try not to make a name for yourself as the gym creep, but do talk to women. As a competitive weight lifting female once said “hey we all need to get laid”
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